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Saturday, 6 December 2008

Sadness

i don't normally write about sad things and i dont really know why i'm writing this really.


We heard the most awful news yesterday - one of my daughter's loveliest friends was killed in a car accident. A friend of my daughter rang me yesterday wanting to speak to her, but she was at work. i was absolutely dumbstruck - how do you tell your daughter something like that? i was praying that no one had text her during the day. When she came in i took her in my arms and gave her the biggest hug - she asked me what was wrong and said that all her friends had been ringing her but of course she could not answer them as she was working. i told her as gently as i could what had happened. i won't go into detail but you can imagine her reaction.


Grace was her name and she was the most lovely girl - always happy and smiling and bubbly - there is a group of about 6 of them and they always go out together, share each others birthdays and the usual girly things. She was a very talented girl, you name it she could sew it and made herself the most fantastic clothes. She was just 18 and it seems like only a few weeks ago they hired a big limo and went clubbing to celebrate.


My daughter showed me Grace's facebook page last night - there are hundreds of messages on it, some absolutely heartbreaking and we sat and cried together.


When something like this happens it puts all else into perspective but it also made me want to hold my daughter and never let her go, but life is not like that.


My heart goes out to Grace's Mum and her family and i cannot begin to imagine how they are coping.


I won't go on any more, i don't know what else to say except that we have lost a very special girl .


here is a picture taken earlier this year when we were invited to a party and Em took Grace
she is on the left.
God bless my lovely.
xxx

17 comments:

dottycookie said...

I am so sorry for your loss - my heart goes out to you and especially to your daughter.

trashalou said...

Oh! I have tears. I am so sorry for Em's loss. There are no words really.

Indigo Blue said...

This is terrible for your daughter. As a teacher it is often brought home to us how terrible things like this happen. 5 students that I have taught have died to to a variety of reasons and I still do not know what to say or how to understand it. All I kbnow is that life is precious and we must try and enjoy it to the full. I am sure Grace would have wanted that from all who were close to her. I am so sorry that someone so young has been taken so early in life, very sad indeed! XX

Joy said...

Oh Maria I'm so sorry for you and your daughter ... I couldn't help but shed a tear. So very sad. I think at times like this we realise how precious life/family/friends are and we are prompted to make sure the ones we love know how much we care.

Jo in Tas said...

I'm so glad that you got to tell your daughter and she didn't hear the sad news over the phone, it's a time when a daughter needs a mum. My condolences to Grace's family and to yours.

Working Mom Knits said...

no words - sending you all comforting vibes and holding you all in prayer.

xxxo

Kerri said...

I'm am so sorry to here your news. Life is not fare sometimes.. They only take the best and the ones left behind are left empty. I really feel for you and your daughter. Only thing I can say is time heals and you can to talk about all the good time you have had together.

LizzieJane said...

Oh my goodness, how tragic, I cannot possibly imagine how her parents must feel right now. When something like that happens it is only natural to want to keep our children close and protected, but as you say life is not like that. I am so glad that you were the one to break this awful news to your daughter, it must have been terribly hard for you. Keeping all in my prayers.
Hugs,
Kathy
x

Kitty said...

Oh no ... you poor things. Your poor daughter. Grace's family must be distraught. I'm so sorry. For you all. x

silverpebble said...

That is such terrible news - a dreadful life-changing blow to Grace's family and to your daughter. What a beautiful girl. It's so hard when life deals a card like this - so difficult to comprehend and digest. I am sending thoughts to you. Emma x

Julie said...

How terrible. I'm glad you were there when your daughter heard the news. What a beautiful girl, so young, so sad. xxx

Lucy Locket-Pocket said...

How unbearably tragic. I don't know what to say but I send you and Em lots and lots of love. Take care of each other. Lucy xxxxx

Gina said...

Words are not enough at times like this. Huge hugs and love to both you and your daughter. And condolences to Grace's family - their loss must be unbearable.
Gina x

Louise said...

I'm so sorry to hear the news about your daughters friends.
She was a beautiful girl, take happiness that she lived a happy and carefree life leaving wonderful memories of her that you all can share.

Dionne said...

I am so sad for you and your daugher ~ and for Grace's family. These things are so senselessly tragic and hurt all the more for being so unexpected. My thoughts and prayers are with you all, my friend! I'm sending you a cyber-hug.
Dionne

Moogsmum said...

Oh my word Maria, what a terrible shock and a tragic loss of a really beautiful young woman.

Sending you and Em lots of love and hugs at this very sad time. My condolences to Grace's family too - I just cannot imagine what they must be going through.

xxx

Tracey said...

So sorry for the loss of a good friend to your daughter, my heart goes out to you and her family at this time.